Move Your Life Forward
by Taking Personal Responsibility
by: Mary Jean Marquez
I share some of my life on this Blog post that is riddled with "Tough Love" because I care! My desire for everyone reading this is that you would read through humble eyes, hearts, and make the changes necessary to move your life forward. Sometimes it's hard to admit to wrong behavior and mind sets, but when you recognize, admit and take responsibility for them, you give yourself a chance at a better life. Denial and stubbornness gets you nowhere!
I realize that sometimes people don't know how to get out of bad habits and wrong thinking after years of living with negative attitudes and thinking, so I would like to share how God helped me. It's like starting a new job. I always say people don't know what they don't know, and require proper training or re-training. Open yourself up to renewing your mind, replacing the old habits and thinking that are getting you nowhere, to a better way that will help move your life forward.
The following scripture has helped me so much, and I know will help you "Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God's will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect." (Romans 12:2 NIV)
There are too many people out there who are playing the blame game, making excuses and not taking personal responsibility for themselves; resulting in stagnant lives that that are filled with self pity. This behavior cheats people out of, what could be, amazing lives. No matter what has happened in your life, know that you can live a happy and successful life. I don't make light of the fact that people have been through some hard experiences in life, but I also know that God can help people heal and move forward if they desire to, like He did for me. It's your choice!
I personally got tired of being miserable and playing the blame game. It got me nowhere except depressed, and hopeless by choice. When I understood that I had to take responsibility for myself and make major changes in my thinking and behavior/habits, my life began an amazingly beautiful transformation. I began to seek God like never before and he showed me how to get out of that crazy cycle. It wasn't overnight, but I remained dedicated and focused on my goals to change myself.
It took humbling myself and telling God that I didn't know where to begin or what to do, and the following scripture was given to me "If you want to know what God wants you to do, ask him, and he will gladly tell you, for he is always ready to give a bountiful supply of wisdom to all who ask him; he will not resent it. (James 1:5 TLB). The same goes for you. Ask God for wisdom and He will begin to show and lead you.
The first thing God helped me with was learning to forgive. I was harboring un-forgiveness deep within my heart which had me bound in so many ways; it made me ill. I did not realize that it had rooted itself within me in the form of hatred and bitterness, causing the manifestation of anger and rage. God knew that it was imperative for me to deal with the un-forgiveness first so that I could heal and move forward in my life. When I did forgive those who abused, harmed and abandoned me as a child, I was set free in every area of my life, and I was also able to forgive myself for wrong doing as well and move forward. My life has been brighter and happier ever since.
I can safely say that everyone has been wronged/harmed, offended and sinned against in some way and point in life, so I encourage you to please set yourself free and forgive. Allow yourself to heal and be well! When you extend forgiveness, God will forgive you of your trespasses "For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. (Matthew 6: 14-15)
Every human being is responsible for His/Her life. God blesses you with life, and it is up to you to live it the best you know how. Sometimes life hands you lemons, but you can decide to make sweet lemonade. Get real with yourself and let go of those things that hold you back. The following scripture guides you perfectly "Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life." (Galatians 6:5 MSG)
To sum it all up, there comes a time in life when you have to stop making excuses, stop playing the blame game, take responsibility for yourself, no matter what has happened in your life, move forward leaving the past where it belongs, in the past! Make the decision to get rid of old childish thinking and behaving. God boldly and clearly instructs you in the following scripture to put away childish living "It’s like this: when I was a child I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child does. But when I became a man my thoughts grew far beyond those of my childhood, and now I have put away the childish things." (1 Corinthians 13:11 TLB)and
Mary Jean Marquez
Creator and Founder of Women Uplifting Women
Foundational Scripture: Therefore encourage [admonish, exhort] one another and edify [strengthen and build up] one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11)